But should I leave with a blaze or a fizzle?
Don't burn any bridges you can't rebuild with your family. Fu#K the rest of the borg drones. My mom and sister have told me it will be different now that I have left but I didn't get DF'd or DA'd. I faded and am learning not to go into details about how I now feel with them. Unless you don't care about hurting your relationships with the family, I would recommend fizzling out. If you go out with a bang you will just look like one of those "crazy" apostates you spoke of. Good luck.